Making Relationships/Marriage works!


I learned that Dishonesty is one of the LOVE BUSTER that destroys a relationship. An honest answer is like a kiss, it builds love. Dishonesty destroys love. Radical Honesty gives you a clear road map(facts), and is a deep emotional need for woman. Dishonesty is offensive! People lie for 4 reasons.

1. People lie to protect themselves
2. People lie to look good
3. People lie to avoid troubles(blame shifting)
4. People lie out of compulsion

The question is, can u lie to your spouse sometimes for a really good reason?? The answer is a NONO!! This is just an excuse! You can hide anything in this world, but there is something u can't hide, and that is the truth, because the truth will always rise up to the surface. No way you can hide it! But does it mean that you speak the truth in a way that will hurt someone?Answer is a No. You have to speak the truth in love. The solution is, never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse.

Another Love Buster is Annoying Habits. Do not think that your spouse should love for who you are. That is a wrong mentality. Can your spouse love you for who you are when your habits irritates her? Kick your habits today! It takes 3 weeks to kick your bad habits, and 3 weeks to nurture good habits.

Last Love Buster is Independent Behaviour(making decisions on your own, doing things on your own, without thinking of your spouse) Both of you should be Interdependency(Behaving in ways that take your spouse into account) Always make decision together, even the small little things. The common reason why couple go separate ways is because they are Not Compatible. This is NONSENSE!! Do you bother to make a effort and build compatibility? Compatibility doesn't comes out of blue. It takes time and effort to build it! Many couple like to start a COLD WAR. This method only worsen the situation, a couple need to communicate daily to increase the love. If communication stop, love stops as well. Love is like an aircraft, it eithers goes up or goes down, it can never stays at the same level. In closing, don't ever let anything come between a relationship, especially friends. It is not worthy at all.

You might think it does not make sense, but i am just sharing what i have learned!

Kok tiong | 4/05/2009 07:50:00 PM